----- Alkuperäinen viesti ----- Lähettäjä: "Jennifer" <ihateegroups@y...> Lähettäjä: "Jennifer" <ihateegroups@y...>
> Can those of you fortunate enough to fit into the > current cultural views of what is acceptable please > stop making the others feel bad, especially when it's > something they may have no control over?
If someone doesn't have any control over some issue, why should s/he feel bad about it??? S/he can't do anything to change that issue, period. Ofcourse, people say stupid things, but you KNOW the truth and that there is nothing more you can do.
I have noticed that if I'm not sure about whether or not I have done my best regarding some issue, I feel like "those nasty people" are making me feel bad, whereas if I'm 100% sure of having done everything I can, I couldn't care less about what people say. And if I feel I haven't done something as well as I could/should have, I tend to read a lot between the lines... Even the most neutral "Good morning" can trigger anything: "How dare you imply my performance yesterday was bad?!?" ;)
Nobody can make you feel bad unless you let him. I don't know who said this, but I believe it is true.
Hanna G from Finland hanna.graeffe@h... hanna.graeffe@h... www.lumenvalo.fi -- vocal ensemble
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