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From:  "DIANE M. CLARK (MUSIC DEPARTMENT)" <DCLARK@r...>
Date:  Tue May 16, 2000  6:51 pm
Subject:  Re: [vocalist-temporary] PC?


CR wrote:

>It would also be appropriate to
remain private if you were just asking "How do I get that Dr Diane to accept
my point of view?" ;-)

Why is it necessary that we get everyone else to accept our point of view? I
am free to share my experience and hope that some of what I share may help
someone else or give them food for thought, but I don't feel put down if they
don't accept my experience and make it their own. It has been my experience
over a long lifetime of learning that it is usually the persons who are
least secure who are desperate to have everyone else accept their arguments
and points of view. I guess this somehow makes them feel worthy.

Of course, we like it when others agree with us and find value in our ideas.
Put when I catch myself trying to push my ideas on people, I have to stop and
take a closer look at things. I have nothing to prove, after all, but some-
times I forget that. :)

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