To: vocalist
Subject: RE: wedding songs (slightly off)
Date sent: Fri, 14 Jan 2000 10:49:14 PST
Send reply to: VOCALIST <vocalist>

This sounds like a job for MISS MANNERS! In her column, she has bemoaned
the current practice of having an "admission charge" for weddings, birthday
parties, bar mitzvahs/first communions, etc. (She calls it "turning it into
a fundraising event.") Some folks have been so brazen as to insist that the
wedding gift cover the cost of the dinner & reception!

My family has a lot of fun with these wedding advice things.

>From: "Anderman-Lanza, Ruth"
>
>As to your mom's remarks, sometimes people need to be reminded that your
>talent does not come cheap, that it takes time and money. You might have
>mentioned that the service you performed at the wedding was actually worth
>(whatever $$), not $100! You could nicely tell your mother that you
>already
>took care of the gift, and change the subject!
>
>Ruth Anderman-Lanza
>732-302-2160
>
>
> -----Original Message-----
>From: Mezzoid-at-aol.com [mailto:Mezzoid-at-aol.com]
and
>my mother said to me a few days before the wedding:
>
>"Christine, I will give you $100 to put into a card for Caroline so that
>the
>
>relatives will think you gave her something. Otherwise they will think you
>are cheap."



Elizabeth Finkler
mightymezzo-at-hotmail.com

"An enemy can partially ruin a man, but it takes a well-meaning and
injudicious friend to really finish the job and make it perfect." --Mark
Twain, "Pudd'nhead Wilson"

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